Anxiety disorders are very common in autistic kids, affecting about half of all children at some point in time. Autistic children can experience anxiety in their own ways. They might be afraid of something very unusual, like people with beards. Their fears might also stem from their sensory challenges, like loud sounds or slimy food. Additionally, autistic kids are more likely to experience anxiety around changes in routine, new situations, changing from one activity to another, social rejection, sensory overload, and special interests or repetitive behaviors.
The table below will tell you more about how anxiety may present in autistic children.
Anxiety Disorders and Core Symptoms |
Common Anxiety Features in Autistic Children |
Social Anxiety Disorder: anxiety about other people thinking badly of you, fear of being judged, fear of embarrassment, fear of rejection in social situations, and in autism, fear of not understanding how to act in social situations. |
Autistic children can often be nervous in situations where they have to understand the social situation and use social skills to interact with others. Autistic children often do not understand social expectations, which can cause significant anxiety. They might also worry about being rejected by others because of how they are different. |
Specific Phobias: extreme fear and distress because of a specific object or situation. |
Autistic children can have uncommon fears like beards, toilets, or certain shapes. |
Separation Anxiety Disorder: anxiety about separation from loved one (usually the caregiver) and/or being away from the home. |
Autistic children can be very rigid about family routines when they have separation anxiety, or feel like everything has to go the same with family every time (for example, if one parent has to take them to school every day). |
Generalized Anxiety: uncontrollable negative thinking across a range of everyday topics happening over and over. Children with generalized anxiety are commonly afraid of making mistakes, getting in trouble, perfectionism. |
Autistic children can have daily worries that often involve sticking to schedules and experience a lot of distress when they face new situations and changes to routine. |
Panic Fears: child experiences unexpected panic attacks over and over, which is when someone feels extremely scared very quickly. Some youth becomes anxious about the future attacks they might have. These fears are not too common in younger children. |
Autistic children may have unique presenting features due to their sensory sensitivities or body-related self-soothing behaviors. |
Selective Mutism: child cannot speak and respond to others in certain settings in which the child is expected to speak e.g., school (although the child is able to speak in other settings). |
Sometimes selective mutism is caused by severe social anxiety- children might not speak because they worry what others will think of them or that they will say something wrong. In other cases, children may have trouble using words to communicate. In some cases, it can be a combination of both. Lots of autistic kids have trouble using words to communicate, so it can be difficult to figure out autism-related language and communication challenges, lack of social interest, selective mutism caused by social anxiety. |
Agoraphobia: fear about situations where the child cannot easily escape or get help if needed (like in enclosed places or big crowds). |
Autistic children may find it difficult to explain why they are afraid in these situations. They can have meltdowns/tantrums in these situations. |
Autism-Specific Fears: In addition to these disorders described above, some fears may be specific to autism and do not usually occur in children without autism. They are listed to the right. |
Some children may worry excessively only about their special interest. For example, they may worry about having enough time to engage in a special interest (for example, playing with trains), or fear losing something related to that special interest (for example, a toy train). |
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD): child experiences unwanted thoughts (obsessions) and performs repetitive behaviors (compulsions) to relieve distress from the thoughts. |
Many autistic children have repetitive behaviors, like playing a favorite game over and over, or think about a topic they enjoy over and over, but this might not mean they have OCD, which involve thoughts and behaviors that cause distress. The need for something to be "just-right" in OCD can overlap with repetitive autistic behaviors that lead to feelings of satisfaction. Similarly, sensory issues seen in autism can overlap with the disgust felt in OCD obsessions related to contamination. |
It can be hard for children to understand and express their emotions, especially for younger children. Autistic children may have additional challenges in recognizing their emotions and expressing their feelings, so part of treating anxiety in autistic kids is helping them to understand their feelings. It may also be hard to understand why your child would have a particular fear. It is important to try to empathize with this fear and validate their feelings, even if you don’t understand their exact fears. Ultimately, what is important is understanding how to support your child in managing their anxiety.
A brief note on language
You will notice that LUNA uses identity-first language (e.g., “autistic children”) rather than person-first language (e.g., “children with autism”). Many autism advocates prefer identify-first language because it acknowledges the autism spectrum as a positive and inherent part of the individual’s identity (see Kenny et al., 2016; Bury et al., 2020). Though we respect that you may have a different preference for terminology, we hope our choice does not take anything away from your participation in our program. Additionally, although this is called a “parent-led” treatment, we understand there are lots of different family structures and that the person caring for a child may not always be a parent. As such, we will use “caregiver” in place of “parent” in your webpages, but we will keep “parent” in the child and teen webpages so as to minimize confusion.
Kenny, L., Hattersley, C., Molins, B., Buckley, C., Povey, C., & Pellicano, E. (2016). Which terms should be used to describe autism? Perspectives from the UK autism community. Autism, 20(4), 442-462. https://doi.org/10.1177/1362361315588200
Bury, S. M., Jellett, R., Spoor, J. R., & Hedley, D. (2020). “It defines who I am” or “It’s something I have”: What language do [autistic] Australian adults [on the autism spectrum] prefer?. Journal of autism and developmental disorders, 1-11. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10803-020-04425-3